tryoneverything replied: "At 3 yod you probably aren't dealing with ADHD, as you stated. Some little personalities are very flighty and out of it. I do believe strongly that MOST ADHD in all children diagnosed is over diagnosed and that there are other sensitivities and allergies involved (I was a teacher so I observed this alot.) The fact that you've observe the changes after the switch to soy is a HUGE deal for your little guy. And mom and dad are going to have to be on top of all this. I have a very flighty 3 yod that acts alot like he has ADHD. I'll tell you what I have observed about him and see if these things help you. First of all, when he watches TV he goes completely bonkers. I believe there is something in the way the flashes of the screen affects his little mind and he just can't handle the overstimulation. I have 4 other children and none of them are affected by the TV. We have just simply opted not to watch it when he's awake. It leads to more reading anyway which is better for all children. Right now, of course, he's sick with a pretty high fever so he's watched movies all weekend. I am dreading tomorrow. I can already tell he's getting very hyper and having trouble concentrating on things. FOOD is, I believe, the number on culprit in ADHD cases. Watch the diet of most children diagnosed with ADHD and you will see tons of food dyes, lots of high frustoce corn syrup, milk products, and just a ton of junk food. There will be very little fruits, veggies, and whole grain breads. Also, the meat and dairy products they eat are full of hormones and antibiotics. These are all the things my children do no longer eat. When we do go out to eat (which is usually every Sunday for lunch.) If any of my children have ketchup with high fructose corn syrup in it they go off the deep end. I have had many balk at these ideas but I spend 24/7 with my children. I homeschool so I see immediate changes in each child and can usually pinpoint the problem (it's taken me a long time to learn about this.) Our body were not designed to handle the overkill of chemicals and preservative that our foods are laced with in order to make them last longer. Some people don't react to them are badly as others. My 9 yod can handle ore in her diet than the others and always has been. But we stil eat a very natural diet. I had to learn how to do this. I grew up with all the processed foods. I learned how to cook from a box. Now I cook everything from scratch and it's really so much better. My flighty little 3 yod reacts worse at any of these foods and usually becomes truly out of control. I don't deprive my children of candy and such. If they are given candy at church or something, they made trade it for naturally made jelly beans or lollipops. We do make cookies here at home for special treats. . .but we use natural sugars. I just made cinnamon toast for my sick kids and used organic butter, agave nectar (to replace the sugar), and cinnamon. These are my observations. I have also observed with my 3 yod that he needs TONS of structure in his day. In a day you nephew was probably getting that but if you're bringing him home then you need to be aware of that. I don't think it means entertaining him 24/7. But just have a schedule for him to follow in the day. When he has my undivided attention for a period of time and then structured play most of the day, there aren't as many problems. I also make sure that he has a time of day where he has to do "chores". Now most of the time he's following me around the house helping. I use these times to train him in jobs he can do (ie: folding wash clothes.) when he does have 'chores' to occupy to feel important and part of the family he gets bored and then we also have issues with him. If I introduce the environmental factors above (TV and bad food) this schedule becomes very difficult to follow and he becomes very difficult to work with. I don't know if any of this will help you. It at least might get you started in some investigation. You might consider trying to find a pediatrician that allows more natural type ideas (hard to find. It took me almost 7 years to find one) or working with a chiropractor that works with children. They could give you even more guidance. My 7 yod son starts to have behavior problems when he's out of alignment and needs an adjustment with a chiropractor. They are trained to work with children and are very gentle. I even take my infants to see mine after they are born. God Bless. mom of 5 w/ #6 due Nov 08"